Thursday 13 September 2012

Are you Stressing about Re-lactation?


On my many hours reading websites, forums and personal blogs that other women have written about their experiences, feelings and hopes on ANR, the subject of lactation (or re-lactation) has come up so often that I feel I need to throw my thoughts into the ring. Let's be clear - we're all different and we all have very different expectations of ANR, so whatever I say, I don't mean to offend anyone, nor am I passing judgements or criticisms.

Re-lactation is a complicated subject, and I am definitely not an expert. All I can say is that re-lactation involves psychological, emotional and physiological issues, and that gets all very complicated.

Like everything in life, some things come easy to some women, and others struggle for years. Whether its finding a partner, having a baby or getting a job, it just feels like some women have it all and others never seem to get it right. And so it is with lactation and re-lactation. Some of us will have milky breasts right from go, and others will take a concotion of hormones and medicines, will pump and massage regularly only to be disappointed over and over.

What I'd like to say to all women out there, and to their partners, is to remember that ANR is a journey of a lifetime, to be enjoyed and cherished. I believe the whole goal of ANR is to bring a husband and wife (or partner) even closer, both physically and emotionally, to build a bridge of intimacy that the stresses of everyday life cannot destroy. The nature of adult breastfeeding, the act of holding your husband to your bare breast, of feeding him your nipple, of submitting yourself to his desires and to your desires - each day, every day, sometimes three times or four times a day - is the journey. Whether your breasts produce milk right away or whether it takes weeks, months or even years for the first drops to flow is irrelevant. It's not the milk that bonds, but the act of nursing. And to those who are struggling to produce milk, all I can say is don't start filling your body with medicines, hormones - take care of your health and your body, eat well, drink lots, exercise often; but also take care of your mind - don't stress, don't panic, just relax - and enjoy.

Here's a quote that speaks to me - I hope it brings all women who are in an ANR some peace.

Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it. 

68 comments:

  1. after reading your blog and doing research on my own I know that this is something I want for myself. I hope I get to have this experience for my life.

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  2. Thanks for your comment Gregory. I wish you all the luck in finding the right person to have this relationship with!

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  3. I do it and love it! Congrats on your great blog!

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  4. Its a beautiful thing.... I have had a couple of ANR relationships..... they are wonderful...

    http://justsimpleinfo.hubpages.com/hub/Adult-Nursing-Relationship-ANR-Bonding-Becoming-Close

    My own blog about bonding and loving someone.... great article Nursing Wife

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  5. Hello,

    I am a journalist for VICE Magazine FRANCE (www.vice.com/fr). I am very interested in the new sexual phenomenons that conjures up round the world. I have read a lot of informations on several websites related to the Adult Nursing Relation, and I am very glad to have read yours - which is extremely uplifting.
    This is the reason why I ask you to know if it was feasible to get in touch with you. Obviously, this is possible to make it anonymous.
    If you disagree, I'd like to know if you would be okay with making me get in touch with other people that are close to this kind of relationships.

    We could communicate by phone or mail.
    Here is my mail adress : anissa.radina@vice.com

    Thank you very much for reading my comment.
    Anissa.

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    1. If a woman after re-lacting does she have the leakage problem
      breast feeding her husband as she would when she was breast feeding her children? My wife hasn't breast feed anyone in decades and doesn't want to re-lactate now because of the leakage problem and being wet during the day and possibility of having a wet blouse out in public, especially at her age now, can you help with this or do you have any information on this?

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  6. I wish I could find a man as interested in having an ANR as I am.

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    1. I am in salinas ca. And my wife dose not want to relactate yet i want an anr. She is bi and said i could have a wet nurse. I have a daughter and i want someone who wants to be part of our life.
      Im 37 she is 28. We have invited a few girls. (2) into our home as a second wife to me and a wife to my wife.
      There are definate sexual posabilitys. Redgrote@yahoo.com

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  7. Looking for a woman who is interested in an adult nursing relationship in salinas ca. I am married but my wife is not interested in relactating but has no problem with me having a milk maid.
    My wife is bi and. Could have some fun.....or not. But i am very interested in long term . Would love to have someone who wants to be part of my family , but that will come. I have a child so we would sneek to bedroom for feedings(sexy).
    Redgrote@yahoo.com im 37 overaverage. Build. 6ft2.

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  8. My wife currently breastfeeds our son and I noticed the closeness they have and I kinda feel curious and jealous ibe tried her milk already she doesn't know and it was an instance omg lol any suggestions? I talked about it but she said that's gross but also said she felt unsure what could I do to try and help this? I really want the bondage and closeness our sex life has been decreased drastically since she had our son

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  9. I want anr so bad all my life no one has come forward for me and I feel so isolated into thinking that it's only me that likes it please help me thanks

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    1. I don't know where you are but I wish I could feed you! I love it so much..

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    2. Hey Sandy, how r u doing? Where do u live?

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  10. Hi Nursing Wife, Me and my wife have just started the process and are deeply involved to take our relationship to the next level. please advise

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  11. Hi if there a woman in South East Queensland Australia who would breast feed a 31 male please let me know

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  12. hey nursing wife.. i have never experienced adult breastfeeding and would love to try it.. I am in Glasgow.. would you breastfeed me? :-)

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    1. Hello, Ali. I am in Glasgow too, and like you, would like to try this. If you'd like to talk: isebella.pena@gmail.com

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    2. Isebella.. I want it to so badly.. :(

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  13. I would love to have a man feed from me

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    1. Where are you Jayne ? We could help each other.

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    3. That is close. I am in Bury St Edmunds. I know Cambridge very well.

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    4. Ok that is close. I'm just outside Cambridge in BarHill. Are you married? And how old are you?

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    5. I know Bar Hill well. I was based in the farm across the A15 whilst building the guided bus :-)
      M/51
      Pilgrim632000@yahoo.co.uk

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    6. Ok that is close. I'm just outside Cambridge in BarHill. Are you married? And how old are you?

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    7. Married. 51 years old. You ?

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    8. Hi Jayne, I live in Cambridge and am looking for an ANR I'm 27, single. If you're still interested please contact me :)
      cambridgeukrelationship (at) gmail (dot) com

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    9. Hey Jayne, how r u doing? I don't mind to drive to you, if you like we can meet, let me know and we can communicate better

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    10. Hey Jayne, how r u doing? I don't mind to drive to you, if you like we can meet, let me know and we can communicate better

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    11. I just began the process of inducing lactation with my boyfriend and I am nearly crying when I write that (tears of joy) I'm am floored at the serene peace it has brought us. The quiet moments we have together are no longer spent worried about mundane things or nit-picking the day. He cuddles up, I cradle him in my arms and he suckles from my breasts. I found that by the 3rd day my breasts ached to be nursed and when I saw him I got a tingling sensation all over my breasts. The peace it gives us, the closeness- it's true intimacy. Sometimes it leads to sex, and that's great - but more often than not it's raw intimacy unlike anything either of us have ever known. I wish more people understood that this isn't a fetish, that it's not about wanting to be treated as a baby (or mother one) and by no means is it sexualizing something meant for infants. It's the most personal and loving thing you can share with your partner, it's giving him your essence. Breasts are designed to bring comfort in every way, through nourishment and touch. If I could have known about this years ago it would've changed my whole life. I'm just so, so thankful to have discovered its joy and peace, and to be able to share such an intimate thing with the man I love.

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  14. Hi
    If you are in California we can work it iut

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    1. I come to the California area to see my family. Maybe we can talk? Email me sandybrown071395@gmail.com

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    2. Hi Sandy,

      What area of Cali do you go to when visiting?
      Wondering because I live in SF Bay Area,

      Lmk,
      Thanks!

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  15. Who u referring to? U a guy?

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  16. I'm in the UK and trying to re lactate by myself. I find it such a turn on. I have never found a man who is interested in anr

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  17. No I'm not doing very well by myself
    But I'm going yo keep at it.

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  18. I'm a 24 year old black/hispanic living in Southern California. If any lady is interested in talking feel free to email me at 12brooksll@gmail.com

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  19. Cannot wait too nurse.. been lactating for
    quite sometime. Looking for ANR in Seattle.
    Pre op shemale, 50ish, full C cup.
    LisaInLynnwd at aol

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  20. I am looking to nurse a man in the Washington or Portland or Spokane area. I am close to those three major cities. I am attractive and looking to find someone to feed. Please contact me at sandybrown071395@gmail.com

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  21. Your sight convinced my wife to try it and we have been nursing for eleven months now

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  22. I jayne I'm in cambridge if you need someone

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  23. Any females wanting help lactating in cambridge area or hertford area

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  24. I'm seeking a nursing partner in the Bay Area California. Oakland SF, SJ, email henryolu09@gmail.com

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  25. Hi folks,

    I'm from the Bay Area, California,
    I'm seeking a female to have ANR with- I'd love to start a conversation with any lady(ies) in the area, so far I've had a tough time locating anyone at all.

    If any ladies are in SF Bay Area shoot me an email: drewmuch@gmail.com,
    Thanks!

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  26. Is anyone in Miami fl interested in starting ANR my husband I need a partner as he works insane hours. Need a partner to help I would love to re lactate.

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    1. Are you still looking or were you successful

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  27. Thank you for sharing your journey, it's encouraged me to start the journey to re-lactate.
    https://mommalovestomilk.wordpress.com/

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    1. Hi my name is Richie I am looking for a mother that can treat me as a son I never had a mom and I never really was loved I am a handsome young man that would love to show you pictures can u help me or pointe me in a direction were I can feel and get nurtured and nurse and fill love from a mother if u can please please help me reach me at rich.bernardjr@gmail.com thanx u

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    2. Hi my name is Richie I am looking for a mother that can treat me as a son I never had a mom and I never really was loved I am a handsome young man that would love to show you pictures can u help me or pointe me in a direction were I can feel and get nurtured and nurse and fill love from a mother if u can please please help me reach me at rich.bernardjr@gmail.com thanx u

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    3. Hi my name is Richie I am looking for a mother that can treat me as a son I never had a mom and I never really was loved I am a handsome young man that would love to show you pictures can u help me or pointe me in a direction were I can feel and get nurtured and nurse and fill love from a mother if u can please please help me reach me at rich.bernardjr@gmail.com thanx u

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  28. I would love to find a woman that is as interested as I am in having an ANR somewhere close to where I live.

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    1. I am interested in ANR/re-lactating and need someone to suckle me in Charleston, SC.

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    2. Yes I'm in Charleston, SC. Contact me at dare2dreamqt@gmail.com

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  29. Any women looking for an ANR?
    I'm 25 years old and I'm in the San Fernando Valley, Ca
    Email me at d_wade0323@yahoo.com

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  30. I would like to suckle my girlfriend but there is no milk. Indian girls boobs are so milky.

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  31. Is this no longer a thing anymore or have you just stopped writing?

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  32. I will start writing again. Moved continents and life's waves overwhelmed us both for some time.

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  34. Hey, im looking for woman for ANR, i live in london ontario, anyone in the city or around me, i dont mind to drive fpr her for an hour or so.

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  35. Hello Editarial-Team,

    did you know that there is a (secret) festival for erotic lactation?

    In June the "Festival of Contemporary Performing Art" takes place. The Celts thought Glastonbury was the entrance to the land of the fairies and in Glastonbury the grave of King Arthur was also found.
    King Arthur was in search of the Holy Grail and many people believe that the Holy Grail was filled with "sweet milk", the elixir of life that women can give (erotic lactation). That's why the friends of "sweet milk" are also celebrating in Glastonbury at the festival.

    You can find more festivities for love and places of love here:
    https://www.love-around-the-world.de/
    (EN = in English language)

    Best regards
    Hans

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