Thursday, 13 September 2012

Are you Stressing about Re-lactation?


On my many hours reading websites, forums and personal blogs that other women have written about their experiences, feelings and hopes on ANR, the subject of lactation (or re-lactation) has come up so often that I feel I need to throw my thoughts into the ring. Let's be clear - we're all different and we all have very different expectations of ANR, so whatever I say, I don't mean to offend anyone, nor am I passing judgements or criticisms.

Re-lactation is a complicated subject, and I am definitely not an expert. All I can say is that re-lactation involves psychological, emotional and physiological issues, and that gets all very complicated.

Like everything in life, some things come easy to some women, and others struggle for years. Whether its finding a partner, having a baby or getting a job, it just feels like some women have it all and others never seem to get it right. And so it is with lactation and re-lactation. Some of us will have milky breasts right from go, and others will take a concotion of hormones and medicines, will pump and massage regularly only to be disappointed over and over.

What I'd like to say to all women out there, and to their partners, is to remember that ANR is a journey of a lifetime, to be enjoyed and cherished. I believe the whole goal of ANR is to bring a husband and wife (or partner) even closer, both physically and emotionally, to build a bridge of intimacy that the stresses of everyday life cannot destroy. The nature of adult breastfeeding, the act of holding your husband to your bare breast, of feeding him your nipple, of submitting yourself to his desires and to your desires - each day, every day, sometimes three times or four times a day - is the journey. Whether your breasts produce milk right away or whether it takes weeks, months or even years for the first drops to flow is irrelevant. It's not the milk that bonds, but the act of nursing. And to those who are struggling to produce milk, all I can say is don't start filling your body with medicines, hormones - take care of your health and your body, eat well, drink lots, exercise often; but also take care of your mind - don't stress, don't panic, just relax - and enjoy.

Here's a quote that speaks to me - I hope it brings all women who are in an ANR some peace.

Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it. 

26 comments:

  1. after reading your blog and doing research on my own I know that this is something I want for myself. I hope I get to have this experience for my life.

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  2. Thanks for your comment Gregory. I wish you all the luck in finding the right person to have this relationship with!

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  3. I do it and love it! Congrats on your great blog!

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  4. Its a beautiful thing.... I have had a couple of ANR relationships..... they are wonderful...

    http://justsimpleinfo.hubpages.com/hub/Adult-Nursing-Relationship-ANR-Bonding-Becoming-Close

    My own blog about bonding and loving someone.... great article Nursing Wife

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  5. Hello,

    I am a journalist for VICE Magazine FRANCE (www.vice.com/fr). I am very interested in the new sexual phenomenons that conjures up round the world. I have read a lot of informations on several websites related to the Adult Nursing Relation, and I am very glad to have read yours - which is extremely uplifting.
    This is the reason why I ask you to know if it was feasible to get in touch with you. Obviously, this is possible to make it anonymous.
    If you disagree, I'd like to know if you would be okay with making me get in touch with other people that are close to this kind of relationships.

    We could communicate by phone or mail.
    Here is my mail adress : anissa.radina@vice.com

    Thank you very much for reading my comment.
    Anissa.

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    1. If a woman after re-lacting does she have the leakage problem
      breast feeding her husband as she would when she was breast feeding her children? My wife hasn't breast feed anyone in decades and doesn't want to re-lactate now because of the leakage problem and being wet during the day and possibility of having a wet blouse out in public, especially at her age now, can you help with this or do you have any information on this?

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  6. I wish I could find a man as interested in having an ANR as I am.

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    1. I am in salinas ca. And my wife dose not want to relactate yet i want an anr. She is bi and said i could have a wet nurse. I have a daughter and i want someone who wants to be part of our life.
      Im 37 she is 28. We have invited a few girls. (2) into our home as a second wife to me and a wife to my wife.
      There are definate sexual posabilitys. Redgrote@yahoo.com

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  7. Looking for a woman who is interested in an adult nursing relationship in salinas ca. I am married but my wife is not interested in relactating but has no problem with me having a milk maid.
    My wife is bi and. Could have some fun.....or not. But i am very interested in long term . Would love to have someone who wants to be part of my family , but that will come. I have a child so we would sneek to bedroom for feedings(sexy).
    Redgrote@yahoo.com im 37 overaverage. Build. 6ft2.

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  8. My wife currently breastfeeds our son and I noticed the closeness they have and I kinda feel curious and jealous ibe tried her milk already she doesn't know and it was an instance omg lol any suggestions? I talked about it but she said that's gross but also said she felt unsure what could I do to try and help this? I really want the bondage and closeness our sex life has been decreased drastically since she had our son

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  9. I want anr so bad all my life no one has come forward for me and I feel so isolated into thinking that it's only me that likes it please help me thanks

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  10. Hi Nursing Wife, Me and my wife have just started the process and are deeply involved to take our relationship to the next level. please advise

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  11. Hi if there a woman in South East Queensland Australia who would breast feed a 31 male please let me know

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  12. hey nursing wife.. i have never experienced adult breastfeeding and would love to try it.. I am in Glasgow.. would you breastfeed me? :-)

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    1. Hello, Ali. I am in Glasgow too, and like you, would like to try this. If you'd like to talk: isebella.pena@gmail.com

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    2. Isebella.. I want it to so badly.. :(

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  13. I would love to have a man feed from me

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  14. Hi
    If you are in California we can work it iut

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  15. I'm in the UK and trying to re lactate by myself. I find it such a turn on. I have never found a man who is interested in anr

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  16. No I'm not doing very well by myself
    But I'm going yo keep at it.

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  17. I'm a 24 year old black/hispanic living in Southern California. If any lady is interested in talking feel free to email me at 12brooksll@gmail.com

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  18. Cannot wait too nurse.. been lactating for
    quite sometime. Looking for ANR in Seattle.
    Pre op shemale, 50ish, full C cup.
    LisaInLynnwd at aol

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